People in society jump into romantic relationships very quickly when attracted to the opposite sex. I've noticed that when men and women start a romantic relationship and share themselves physically to fast one or the other get attached. This usually turns off one of the two and becomes to overwhelming for them. I have recently just ended a four year relationship and have been "dating" to discover that I have become very fond of another woman. Yes, it is quick but I have been working with this woman for a couple years. With all my past romantic relationships I have always moved very quickly thinking that if the woman was interested in me she would do what I want which therefore ultimately meant she liked me. This woman that I have become extremely found of has seem to make it clear to me that she enjoys my company very much and is attracted to me but will not do what I want. My old pattern leads me to think that she doesn't like me because she is not indulging me in my fantasies which frustrates me. But because I like her so much and enjoy her company as well I have backed off with the aggression and am taking my time getting to know her better and her with me. This brings me to my observation and admiration. This woman has put aside her attraction to me and has not just acted on romance and intimacy. She has made me realize a lot about myself and how I’ve treated my past relationships. I spent a rocky four years with a woman I cared deeply about and "loved". I thought I knew what love was, but I have admitted to myself now that I have no idea what romantic love is. I admire this girl because she has a set of values that she won’t put aside for anyone or should I say any man. She has left me no choice other than to be a friend, stick around and see what happens. I have had women tell me to go with the flow before and I have answered back no, I make the flow. This is a philosophy that I have laid to rest. The main thing that I have learned from this woman that I have seem to fallen head over heals for is that if I want a successful relationship I should take it slow and make sure I have a true compatibility with that person, because rushing it will only lead to instant gratification which can doom a relationship from the beginning.